If you've worked hard to clean up the aftermath of your divorce, keep your new mindset in place by taking a good look at your external world . What's it lookin' like? Does it support the new positive you?
Just as I mentioned in Decorating Changes to Empower After Divorce, you may need to assess your environment to make sure it keeps your spirits buoyed. Take a look at these three area's of your life:
1) Friends -
They may feel threatened by your newfound, liberated, "I am woman hear me roar" ism. They may not like that they can no longer hang in the depths of despair with you and may feel they've lost their commiseration buddy. If they try to pull you back in just keep changing the subject to a positive and they will get it as you will not be vibrating at the same level and they'll start to feel uncomfortable. Hopefully they will see the sense in speaking positively - if not, you may need to re-evaluate the friendship.
2) Family -
Always well-meaning but there may be some family members that are worry warts and doom sayers. Or you may have had a co-dependent relationship that no longer serves you but they are left with a big "Huh???" after every conversation with you now. Just like your friends they won't like it - the shift you've made will scare them cuz it means they have to start looking at themselves and they probably don't want to. Keep your attitude positive and don't let them suck you in. Eventually they will have to change because you've changed which means the dynamics have changed, can't stay the same. Worst case scenario you'll have to put some space between you and your tribe.
3) Physical living space -
Time to do a little re-decorating. Put away old pic's that make you sad and melancholy. Buy new bed linens, paint your most frequented rooms. Rearrange the furniture, burn some sage say some prayers and open the windows to let the old energy out and new energy in. You will be amazed at how much lighter and happier you'll feel.
You worked so hard to overcome your grief - just be aware of how your surroundings are affecting you and keep what works and release what doesn't - it's all part of your journey Diamond Girl. You're doing awesome!!!!!!!!!!
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