Sparkle After Divorce

Take the Vow!

Are you tired of the toxic thoughts running through your mind about your ex, your life, the world?

Do you find yourself quick to judge yourself and others? It can be alarmingly easy to be discriminating when people behave differently than we do or what we think is "right" - whatever right means.

The world is full of diversity: different cultures, religions, idea's , people, thoughts, ideas etc. And all this colorful variety can create power struggles, fighting and ugly thoughts. What to do to bring about the peace and calm we are ALL craving?

Leave it to Deepak Chopra - he came up with a brilliant movement to solve this issue and bring peace to the world - it's called I Take The Vow. 

It started on November 7th in Barcelona at the Alliance for a New Humanity Human Forum - Deepak announced he was taking a vow of non violence in thought, speech and action. He invited the 500 people attending to sit with this idea and ask their hearts if they could commit to this vow as well.  It was a unanimous "Yes"! 

The goal then became to get 100 million people to also take the vow- they believe with such a critical mass commitment the world will be transformed. And I say, it certainly can't hurt - right? Totally worth a try. So if you support world peace, take the vow now!

 

7 Simple Truths About Successful Relationships

Have you ever known a couple who have a fairy tale romance? A relationship that lets you know happily ever after really does exist? A relationship that gives you faith true love is a reality and not some empty promise our parents gave us?

My Aunt Maxine and Uncle Bill (picnicking in above photo-1954) had that marriage. I say "had" because after 60+ years of wedded bliss my uncle passed on...a very sad day for my aunt and entire family. I grew up spending endless summers with them and am so grateful they were in my life.  Wow how blessed I am to have gotten to see true love first hand. 

Having a failed marriage myself I sat my aunt down one day and asked her what she felt was the secret to a long, happy and successful relationship. Here's what she had to say:

1. Like being together - (makes sense...to be each others best friend)
2. Overlook each others faults - (ouch, I wasn't so good here...) 
3. Patience and understanding - (how patient is patient???) 
4. Never go to bed mad -( Wow did I suck at this one!)
5. Good sense of humor ( right up my alley) 
6. Supportive - help each other when you're down ( definitely gotta be there for each other)
7. LOVE each other - and this is the bottom line - what everything stems from 

So, if you're in a reflective state or on your way into a new relationship - think about this simple but sage advice from a woman who was still madly in love with her husband after 60+ years of marriage and feels their time together was not nearly enough to express their love.

A beautiful example for me...I hope it will be for you too. 

BREATHE TO WEATHER DIVORCE

Today my Daily Word message was such an awesome reminder of one of the most simple things we can do to get ourselves thru any challenge....Breathe...just Breathe like this darling little kitty and let the purity of the Divine relax and calm you.

It is so easy and so overlooked - read this message and apply it to your life today!

BREATHE

I am a vibrant creation of God, living a life of health and freedom.

In my commitment to a healthy lifestyle, I realize a great benefit in making breathing a part of my focus. Taking in oxygen as I inhale, I feel refreshed. Exhaling, I release all concerns. As I breathe in--mindful that I am taking in the breath of life--I use affirmations of health and renewal.

Free Your Mind Part 2

“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.”  ~The Dalai Lama

In yesterday's post, Free Your MInd After Divorce, we talked about the benefits of forgiveness.  Today we will focus on the importance of forgiving yourself first.

Famed spiritualist Michael Beckwith shared his insights in a sermon I recently went to and offered this valuable information:

Forgiving yourself has three components:

1. Forgiveness
2. Surrender
3. Change 

Used in a mantra, these three words accelerate healing at breakneck speed. 

FREE YOUR MIND AFTER DIVORCE

Forgiveness is freedom…

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that prisoner was you.”

~ Lewis Smedes 

If you are trapped in a prison of anger, pain, blame and resentment you understand how powerful this quote is. 

 I know the act of forgiveness may be a fight initially – your life has been turned upside down, and it may or may not have been your choice

But wouldn’t it be nice to be free? Free of all those burdensome emotions that now weigh you down…own your mind…close your heart…and stress your body. 

 Would you like to know how to get out of this life robbing state?

 The answer to your turbulent life is

3 Valuable Points About Journaling After Divorce

Journaling was one of the best habits I instilled when the life I knew was crumbling around me.

Why you ask? I found it to be a totally safe haven to release all mind mania, to clear away the cobwebs, to nurture my soul and to start building my new visions.

How Well Do You Know Yourself, talks about the  value of journaling, and gives suggestions for embracing this healing practice. 

I would also like to mention Sandy Grason, author of the best-selling book

Journalution: Journaling to Waken Your inner Voice, Heal Your Life and Manifest Your Dreams who gives further valuable information about the incredible benefits of getting your thoughts on paper. She says:

Three Tips To Environmental Clean-up After Divorce

 If you've worked hard to clean up the aftermath of your divorce, keep your new mindset in place by taking a good look at your external world .  What's it lookin' like?  Does it support the new positive you? 

Just as I mentioned in Decorating Changes to Empower After Divorce, you may need to assess your environment to make sure it keeps your spirits buoyed. Take a look at these three area's of your life:

Divorce Advice - Are You Clark Kent or Lois Lane?

Are you a Shero?

If you are like most women today you are superwoman to the rescue, saying "yes" to everything that is asked of you and putting yourself last...divorce can push the envelope even further since you have no one to help out.

Can you relate to any of the following tasks?

• raising a family
• taking care of a home 
• competing in the work force 
• fighting for causes dear to your heart
• managing community fundraisers 
• taking care of aging parents  
• figuring finances 
• dealing with attorneys 

Does this sound familiar to you? Are you just ready to drop at the end of the day?? 

You poor thing, I'm exhausted just writing about it!! Now I'm not suggesting you step away from any of your responsibilities but take a look at that list again. Many of those activities require take-control behavior and are masculine energy drivers. This is in polar opposition to our biological feminine make-up. 

If you are not convinced look over this list of energy imbalance indicators and see where you stand:

• crankiness
• tired 
• negative 
• resentful 
• aggressive 
• impatient 
• snappy 

If you find yourself nodding your head and screaming, "Yes that's me, help!", no worries...balance is easy to achieve....after all, you inherently have the right DNA. But instead of rescuing everyone else you have to start taking the time to rescue you.

Here are a few ways to bring back your feminine deliciousness...

1) yoga

2) Breathe deeply and gently let your hips undulate

3) Go dancing

4) get your nails done

Balance out your Shero mode at least 3x/week with any of the above suggestions - and of course any other great idea's you may have to save your sparkling feminine essence:-)