http://www.diamondpowernow.com/2008/11/free-your-mind-after-divorce.html en-us http://www.typepad.com/ http://www.rssboard.org/rss-specification Mon, 17 Nov 2008 08:10:44 -0800 http://www.diamondpowernow.com/2008/11/free-your-mind-after-divorce.html?cid=140221862#comment-6a00e550f9d38b883401053613f6f6970b David Reynolds http://www.diamondpowernow.com/2008/11/free-your-mind-after-divorce.html?cid=140221862#comment-6a00e550f9d38b883401053613f6f6970b Sun, 23 Nov 2008 21:01:27 -0800 <p>Welcome to the mentee group. (I added your blog to the network AND confirmed you as the author)</p> <p>My experience with forgiveness was a long and hard fought battle. I certainly agree that the circumstances may make &#39;instant&#39; forgiveness unrealistic and if the disruption to your life continues (due to the actions of the other) it makes it almost impossible!</p> <p>I recall reading that old saying about unforgiveness is the cup of poison you drink but the only one it kills is YOU. And this was certainly true in my case as my ex couldn&#39;t have cared less.</p> <p>When I finally let it go (and apologized to HER for mistakes made), I felt that weight lifted off of me that I had carried for so many years. The fact she never acknowledged any responsibility only made the forgiveness sweeter. You can&#39;t undo damage done and often you can&#39;t even prevent MORE damage, but at least you can stop drinking the koolaid that kills only you.</p>