Sparkle After Divorce

Freedom to Love Again

Whenever you experience heartache there is a certain amount of hesitancy to open yourself to romance again. Don't let your past rob your future. Do the work now so that you may love again, bigger and better.

Rumi's poem is powerful and highlights the truth that in the end, love is all there is....

the time has come
to break all my promises
tear apart all chains
and cast away all advice

disassemble the heavens
link by link
and break at once
all lovers' ties
with the sword of death

put cotton inside
both my ears
and close them to
all words of wisdom

crash the door and
enter the chamber
where all sweet
things are hidden

how long can i
beg and bargain
for the things of this world
while love is waiting

how long before
i can rise beyond
how i am and
what i am

~Rumi!

Turning Pain into Peace

“It is the fire of pain that brings forth the gold of godliness.”
-Madame Guyon

Who hasn’t been hurt? Who hasn’t suffered heartache? The experience of loss is universal but how we deal with loss builds character.

As you work through gut-wrenching heartache, growth and strength are gained to help balance the loss, hurt and confusion.
Did you consider the following three things that truly honor you?...

The Power of Spring

“Whatever we see as our ‘self’ must have a place of dignity in our own hearts and consciousness before we can become individualized as personalities.” - Marsha Sinetar

Ahhh spring…a time when life is beginning again everywhere, and so can we, if we are willing. The way we see ourselves begins with our earliest memories. If we see ourselves with any negative memory we are letting the messages we received as tiny tots from those around us run our lives in a negative way. Gotta re-create this, pronto!

The power of spring provides...

How to Overcome Control Issues

"Today I know that I cannot control the ocean tides. I can only go with the flow. Today I can learn how to float to the top and let myself be carried buoyantly joyously through life. When I struggle and try to organize the Atlantic with my specifications, I sink. If I flail, and thrash, and growl, and grumble, I go under. But if I let go and float, I am borne aloft." - Marie Stilkind 

When you are going through the big “D” (div----) life can seem like a scary dark jungle and so you try to control everything to make you feel safe. But the truth is...

Adventure Awaits...

“I don't want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.”
- Diane Ackerman


Has your life narrowed to the obsession of your problems? Are the changes in your life challenging your normal capabilities to cope? Then it’s time to break free of your stress, dust off your suitcase...

Clear For Clarity

I've always found that cleaning makes me think more clearly but I had no idea the power of order. Right before entering 2008 I had this overwhelming urge to get “organized.” No doubt brought on by the desire for a “fresh start” with a new year. Regardless I was a woman with a mission!

Surprisingly I found this sorting and systemizing to be synonymous with mental clarity. The more I weeded through my stuff, arranged for easy access and made space for something new, the more clear my thoughts and life visions became.

I want to share a few things I did to de-clutter...

CREATE A NEW REALITY

"It's not what happens to us that matters, it's what we do about it that matters."
-W.Mitchell

You know when you're in a situation and you just aren't loving it? You start to get agitated and you're thinking to yourself, "Man this sucks, it isn't what I was expecting, this isn't how I want to spend my time, etc..."
You may feel stuck but the solution is very simple...

HOW TO AVOID NEGATIVE SELF-TALK - THE IMPORTANCE OF ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

Do you give yourself the credit you deserve? Do you find your LONG list of To Do’s magically growing instead of shrinking? Call me crazy but I would swear someone got hold of an economy size MiracleGro, dousing my list consistently. If you’re a check off kind of gal like me you’re focusing on what didn’t get done. And oh boy does that negative self-talk start to chatter – it’s sooo annoying, isn’t it? So annoying I decided to...

JUST SAY YES!!!

I just love it when something makes sense and revelations come at lightening speed, don't you?!?!

Yesterday I had the opportunity to attend a David Neagle seminar - I had heard of him but knew very little about him. I was totally impressed with him and his message. I have heard what he delivers before but you know how depending on where you are in your life you "hear" differently? Well such was the case yesterday.

Basically the message was...

TELESEMINAR REPLAY IS UP!

Do you feel drained at the end of your day? If the answer is yes you won't want to miss the call from last week. Go to http://brilliantbabbling.com for the free replay. I give you a technique to avoid energy drain - AND there's a special guest interview Success Story.
Click on the link now for a better quality of life!!
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HOW WELL DO YOU KNOW YOURSELF?

Do you need a friend to listen to your pain, to tell you the truth, to hear you without judgment; to love and empower you at all times, to give you new perspective? The best friend you will ever have is your...

EGYPTIAN RITUAL FOR CLEARING NEGATIVE EMOTION

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment"
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Isn't Egypt a land of fascination? Known for their superior intelligence, mystical rituals and magical energy this country's culture has always intrigued me to the core. So when my friend invited me to attend an Egyptian Emotional Clearing...

AWAKEN THE GREATNESS IN YOU

It takes a lot of courage to look into the cosmic mirror. We are so big that it is overwhelming to take in, to imagine our true greatness, true beauty, and true enlightened beingness. The great universe in which we live provides constant feedback about our evolutionary process if we choose to look, listen and stop making excuses for postponing our awakening.
~Rev. Michael Beckwith

Many of you saw Michael Beckwith in the The Secret. Unquestionably a passionate and profound thought leader, he founded a spiritual center, Agape, about twenty years ago. I am quite fortunate to live within a few miles of this blessed sanctuary where I get to bask in his inspirational energy every week.

Last Sunday’s sermon was very powerful – it focused on listening to your inner guidance and accepting that you are meant for greatness...

VISUALIZATION - JACK'S MENTAL QUICKIE CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE

I started following Jack Canfield’s work a few years ago and quickly became a “Jack Girl.” I have not found a more heart centered thought leader since I began my spiritual journey 23 years ago. He teaches without ego and is dedicated to helping everyone live the best life imaginable.

 And speaking of imagination, one of the quickest ways to change your circumstances is to visualize. I recently read a brilliant article by Jack on visualization. There is a lot of information out there on visualization but since I’m a “Jack Girl” and it was something I had never heard of, I was excited to give it a go. The process is called – Mental Rehearsal- I tried it this morning and it felt very powerful. 

You all may have heard about it as athletes have been using it since the 1960’s. The best time to try this is right before you go to bed or first thing in the morning. 

Here’s what you do:

 1) See yourself sitting in a movie theater. The movie starts and it’s a movie of you living your dream to perfection. See as much detail as you can and imagine the feeling you think you would be experiencing as you are engaging in this activity.

 2) Next, stand up, walk to the screen, open a door in the screen and enter into the movie. Experience everything again from inside of yourself, looking out through your eyes. See everything again in brilliant detail and feel the feelings you would feel.

 3) Then walk back out of the screen, but see it still showing the picture of you performing perfectly and sit down again in the theater. Reach out and grab the screen and shrink it down to the size of a cracker. Put it in your mouth, chew it and swallow it. Imagine all these little screens traveling through your bloodstream and entering each cell of your body. 

Finally imagine every cell lit up with a movie of you living your dream exactly as you desire.

 Open your eyes after you are finished – should take no more than 5 minutes start to finish. If you do this every day you’ll likely see great improvements in your life.

 I’m giving it a whirl and will keep you posted – I look at it this way – if it works for pro athletes, who am I to question?? Download PICT0033_2.jpg

How To Heal Your Life

Transform Your Pain Into Peace....

Do you feel lost? Are you looking for a safe haven that will help you find peace and happiness? A place where you'll find support while healing and rebuilding your life...a place where you'll be given successful strategies and techniques for overcoming heartache and stress so that you can move forward with confidence and courage? 

 If you would like to discover how to leave your past in the dust and move forward with enthusiasm and renewed passion, you're in the right place. I know EXACTLY where you're at because I went through an excruciating divorce 10 years ago and then backed it up with a relationship that broke my heart into a million pieces.

 Believe me, I know heartache, depression and stress...geez I thought I would never survive, but I did. I am an EXPERT at healing a tattered heart and life and getting back on your feet again.So I want to give you the tips and techniques I used, THAT WORK, to overcome life's challenges. This site is dedicated to giving you all the tools you need to leap forward with love in your heart again. 

Great Tip To Create More Energy

Would you like a tip that will give you more energy for your day?
Would this be of interest to you?

I’ve been participating in an experiment that involves wearing jewelry AND gives me more energy. It’s called the Complaining Game – it’s so easy to play! The first step is to get you some elasticized bracelets.

Do you have a bead shop near you? What’s your favorite color? Can you make a fun adventure to a bead store, buy your favorite color beads to match your outfits, and string them? Can you do this? I guarantee you will have more energy if you do this one simple technique that is virtually free.

Here’s how it works – every time you speak a complaint you move the bracelet to your other wrist. It’s that easy.

The goal is not to move a single bracelet for 21 days. I must admit I moved mine so much I got a rash and I was shocked at what was flying out of my mouth. But once I got it under control (and that doesn’t mean perfect) I was thrilled to see how much lighter I felt. Until I played this game I would have never believed my negative verbalized thoughts were causing such a drain.

The biggest bonus for me was the realization that monitoring my remarks about others helped me curtail all the bad thoughts and judgments I had about myself. I now feel so much more energized and happy.

So start stringing today for super energy!!!!

Tip #3 Foundations are Key - Re-invent Your Persona Post Divorce

Beautiful "Foundations" are the key to a successful re-build! That's right girls, I'm talking about bra's, panties and all those wondrous contraptions that hide chunky monkey thighs, back fat and muffin tops.

You want to lift, add to and adorn that beautiful bust-line for attractive cleavage. I will never forget my friend Lois helping me out in this area. She came over one day to give me an opinion on an outfit I was planning to wear on a date - she took one look and said, "Honey, you need to lift to lure!" She was so right - I had never been perky and never given much thought to it, but now it was so glaring - even tho I was in my 30's my sagging chest made me look positively matronly.

I marched right into Victoria Secret's and bought some sexy push-up's. What a HUGE difference. If you are not well endowed and need some help in this area the "chicken cutlets" are a very natural enhancement. One of my good friends decided to try them and got a kick out of the oogling her new cleavage was causing.

Pretty undies are also a must. If you are wearing waist high "mother" underwear how will you ever feel like a woman? If thongs are not your thing there are lots of options in-between. The psychological benefit of flirtatious undergarments is enormous - you'll feel as tho you have a secret...very alluring.

Don't feel bad if your figure needs some realignment- most do. The good news is there are plenty attractive body shaping lines out there to lift, smooth and contour. Nordstrom's has an awesome lingerie department with well trained gals to help you out.

I can't emphasize this enough, it all starts with your foundations - build beautifully and watch your walk become a confident strut. Start building!!

Tip #2 Transformation Empowers Divorced Women- Re-Invent Yourself and Step Into a New Persona Post Divorce

Address your tresses and make a new face girls! The first thing I do whenever a relationship goes south is head straight to the best hair salon in town for an au courant "do" and lighter highlights for a touch of glamour.

It just makes me feel good - and it will make you feel terrific too. Try a new style, try a new length, try a new color - the key is dramatic change. It can't be too subtle - it needs the WOW factor to make you feel different and ready for a fresh start. Stretch your comfort zone a bit here and don't freak out - you're not married to it - hair grows, color and style can be changed - just have some fun and create a new persona.

Next stop - a great cosmetic department. Take a friend for support and cruise the counters till you see someone who's face is made up in a way that you like. Zero in and ask for a free make-over -play, play, play with new colors and applications. Ask your friend for honest critique and make a promise to stay away from previous make-up choices.

Just like a spring flower you are opening up and showing the world your new beauty.

Part #1 Transformation Empowers Divorced Women – 3 Tips on How to Re-Invent yourself and Step into a New Persona Post Divorce

After a devastating end to my marriage I realized I had changed considerably over the span of my 13-year relationship. I had taken on the masculine role and realized I had lost touch with my feminine side. I needed a total transformation, so the first thing I did was step out of my husband's boots and back into my red high heels. If you find yourself in a similar situation read on - you will benefit from the action steps I took for a brand new you!

Tip #1

Enlist a friend from your inner circle to give it to you straight without any sugar coating...

It was Jon, my lifelong friend, who was the most honest and helpful. He began by telling me I dressed like a man… citing my last gift from my husband – the infamous Prada “tire” shoe as case in point and feminine travesty. He then addressed my cool, independent veneer that screamed “ I can take care of myself, thank you very much” and it’s intimidation factor. Ouch and W.O.W. – did I ever need to “fem-up” fast.

Needless to say I went out the next day with a mission- to buy a whole new wardrobe suitable for a starring role in Sex and the City – body hugging tops, skirts with slits, sexy high heels, and fabulous accessories. I was deliriously happy with my new look…albeit only in a dressing room or the comfort of my home. When reality set in, the awareness that I actually had to wear these get-up’s in public, I began to sweat. Now I had the look, but I was a fish out of water –come on, I was the Ann Taylor girl – button up blouses, trousers and a loafer – how was I ever going to pull this off?

Uncomfortable with this new look I gathered my friends to tell me the truth… I started hosting my own home fashion shows…their enthusiastic approval gave me the courage to venture out. I slowly gained the confidence to own my new “womanly” look and began feeling really good about my new image.

If it hadn't been for Jon's honesty I would not have been able to make the leap so quickly but I trusted him and what he said hit me at gut level so I knew it was right.

So do yourself a favor and ask a friend for help. If money is not an issue and you would prefer to turn to a professional seek out an image consultant. I can recommend a source here in Los Angeles, Lori Robinson, www.larconsultants.com. I've worked with her myself and she's very talented.
Whatever you decide know that there is a beautiful new you just waiting to be unleashed - get excited!!